Christmas Music

Colonial Christmas, Barry Phillips & Friends

Barry Phillips is a cellist, composer arranger and recording engineer whose CDs have included a series of collections of early American music.  In 2008, Barry released Colonial Christmas, (Gourd Music) a CD of instrumental carols and dances from the American colonial period. Barry’s CDs always have thoroughly researched and beautifully written notes, and each carol in this collection has a story. The pieces are, as always, beautifully played, Barry on cello, with Shelley Phillips on oboe and French horn, and additional musicians on bassoon, double harp, fiddles and other period insruments. The music is lilting but mellow, perfect for accompanying Christmas dinner or as background for present opening.

Christmas Classics, Solitudes

Since 1981 Solitudes had made CDs that incorporate natural sounds (birds, wind, sea, etc.) with music. The Christmas offering here is characteristic of their style. The selections move from light classics (“Skater’s Waltz”) and familiar seasonal favourites (“Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairy”) to traditional carols (“Greensleeves”), all interlaced with nature’s own music. If so-called “New Age” music is your style, this  CD is definitely meant for your collection.

McKellen, de la Tour and the ex wife

Theatre, for me, has often been a spiritual exercise. Even in the midst of real life turmoil, there’s theatre. Most of my enduring friendships began in the theatre, as did this one.

Date: Fri, 02 May 2003
From: Ramona Silipo
To:  Cheski
Subject: Re: Give an Actor a Chance…

Things are going well here in most ways, but I. has had to get a solicitor involved in order to get to see his children. We are, at this point, waiting for his ex wife to reply to a letter from I’s solicitor. In a last ditch effort, after about half a dozen requests, I. proposed again that they go to mediation. If she refuses again, then he goes to court. We really wish she would just stop all the animosity and avoid the tremendous COST of going to court. But she is one of these short sighted women who is so vengeful she will shoot herself in the foot if it means making more trouble for her ex.

We saw [Ian] McKellen and Frances de la Tour in Dance of Death last night. Amazing stuff. McKellen has changed radically since Richard III and Enemy of the People. This is the first time I have seen him allow a role to inhabit him, instead of imposing himself on a role. Do you know what I mean? It was brilliant.

And I am now a real fan of Frances de la Tour. Her Cleopatra is the only one of about half a dozen I’ve seen that I believed every moment. She was hysterically funny in Fallen Angels. If I were 30 years younger, I’d be writing her a fan letter. God, she’s good. There was a moment last night, a gesture or inflection or something, when she reminded me of you… a kind of vulnerability with huge depths of strength underneath.

Christmas Handmade Decorations for Little Hands

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One of the simplest handmade tree ornaments is a spiral. You can make them in different sizes by tracing different round objects– for instance, jar lids of several different sizes; or a teacup, a mug, and a saucer. The larger the circle, the longer the dangle from the tree branch.

You’ll need scissors, pencil, paper and items to trace. That’s all. You can add glitter if you don’t mind the mess, but I would forgo it with young children. It just gets everywhere, including in their mouths and up their noses which can’t be healthy for them.

Construction paper is the old standby. But good-quality, heavier gift wrap works very well and adds a bit more colour. Magazine covers are excellent, as they have body and lots of colour. Aluminum foil can be used, too, but may be best saved for older children who can cut through it more easily.

Trace the circle. Then simply begin at the edge, cutting round and round the edge, about 1/4 inch from the edge, until you reach the center. Leave the center about the size of a nickel so you can punch a hole for the hook or ribbon to hang it (or you can fold the end over the tree branch, but it doesn’t work a well as using and ornament hook).

Younger children might need you to draw a guide line for cutting, which can be tricky. If you show them how to cut, following the edge as the circle gets smaller, most children “get it” from watching.

Another easy decoration with circles is made by cutting one large circle, say, 3″ in diameter (a coffee mug size) and four circles slightly smaller (a tea cup size). For this you need construction paper or light card. Heavier magazine covers might work, too, if you want to experiment.  Fold the four smaller circles in half and make a cut in the vertical middle of the fold. Using the slit you cut, slide the four smaller circles on to the larger circle, spacing them evenly around the edge. Punch a hole near one edge of the larger circle for the hook or ribbon to hang it on the tree.

Don’t forget the old traditional stand-by, the paper chain. These are more colourful when made from gift wrap than construction paper.

Cranberries and popcorn are great to string for your trees outdoors. The birds will enjoy them, but you will have to remember to remove the thread after the berries are gone so the birds don’t get tangled in it.

For a slightly more sophisticated garland, you can use walnuts. For this you will need whole walnuts, eyepins (which you can find at crafts shops and stores that sell beads and jewelry findings), and narrow ribbon, yarn or cord in gold, red or green (or any colours you want).

You can leave the walnuts natural, or paint them gold or just give them a coat of clear gloss to dress them up. Put an eyepin in each end of each walnut. Thread ribbon or yarn through the eyes of two nuts, and tie a decorative bow leaving an oval of ribbon about an inch long between the two nuts. Make the garland any length you like.

To make ornaments from single walnuts, tie narrow ribbon or gold cord around them longwise. A dab of Elmer’s Glue-All at the bottom will help if you use satin ribbon or metallic cord and it’s slippery. Tie a loop at the top to hang it from the tree; or tie a bow at the top and use an ornment hook threaded through the knot to hang it.

Crafty Fun for Children as Summer Rolls into Autumn

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Hardly seems possible, but over the weekend, I heard the first TV commercial this year to give the countdown to Christmas… even before Labor Day. It gets earlier every year.

I don’t mind much, since I love Christmas and I read about it, buy gifts for friends and make plans for holiday activities all year ’round. I just wish the focus was more on making things, doing things, sharing things among family and friends, than on buying things.

This is actually the time of year to think about homemade decorations, especially Christmas tree ornaments, since so many can be made from items collected outdoors. Plants are starting to dry up, throw seeds, drop leaves, produce nuts and generally offer up wonderful natural shapes for decorations. It’s also the time to think about what items can be recycled, adapted or reused to make fun, inexpensive decorations.

Also if you want to make Christmas presents, whether you knit, sew , draw, cook or whatever, this is a good time to write down your gift list, estimate the amount of time it will take to create each gift, and buy the materials you will need.

I watch for sales all year ’round and buy up such items as ribbons, braid, fabric remnants, beads and so on, and put them in my Christmas drawer, the bottom drawer of a chest where I keep my sewing and craft materials. I just toss things in there.  Then about this time of year I check to see what I have and what I still need to buy for the projects I have planned.

DECORATIONS

Some of nature’s designs that make lovely decorations are

  • sea shells collected on summer days at the beach
  • driftwood, sea glass and pebbles flattened by the sea
  • teazels
  • seed pods
  • walnuts
  • avocado pits
  • peach, plum and nectarine pits and unshelled almonds
  • pine cones
  • bare branches after the leaves have fallen

And whatever grows and leaves interesting remains at the end of the growing season in your area. Use your imagination. I’ve even seen skeletons from bunches of table grapes dried out, painted silver and gold, and hung with ribbons on a Christmas tree. It took me a couple of hours of looking at them curiously to figure out what they were. The six year old girl in the family had saved and dried out the twigs all year, and her mom helped her spray paint them.

Shells can be hung just as they are. Use a small bit in your electric drill to make a tiny hole, then let the children thread through a thin satin ribbon in red or green, or some gold cord to make a hanging loop.

I have some gorgeous pieces of driftwood that I use as background for my nativity scene. Smaller pieces can be drilled and hung as they are, same as the shells. They can also be varnished so they have a sheen, or your more artistic or older children can decorate them with paint, to give as gifts or to decorate your tree.

A safe, clear, shiny coating can be made by mixing one part white PVA glue (such as Elmer’s Glue-all) with five parts water. This makes a very thin, drippy paint which can be applied with a brush; or you can dip nuts, pine cones, etc. in it to give them a shiny, sealing coating. Things should be laid out on wax paper or plastic wrap to dry, as the paint is VERY sticky.

A Nude Mary Magdalene – Unusual Sculpture in the L’Ouvre

This portrayal of Mary Magdelene is in a small out-of-the-way gallery in the L’ouvre. I was moved by the sadness in her face, and at the same time comforted by her peaceful resignation. It’s also extraordinary because it is a nude. It is carved in wood, apparently from one tree, then burnished, painted and gilded. The workmanship is faultless.

Heart of England: Stratford-upon-Avon and Coventry

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At the end of May, my husband and I took a weekend trip to “Shakespeare country” It’s only about an hour and half’s drive, but we meandered a bit, took our time and enjoyed country roads with gorgeous vistas in every direction. The weather was hot, so we decided not to try to cram the weekend with activity.

We stopped at Coventry Cathedral on the way to Stratford-on-Avon. My husband had seen it when he was twelve years old and never forgot it, and he wanted to show it to me. I knew why the moment I saw it. This is the first modern cathedral I’ve ever seen that is what I think a cathedral should be. It is exquisite. The exterior is gorgeous red-tan sandstone. The way it’s designed the new cathedral is connected visually and literally to the old one that was bombed out during WWII, with a connecting bridge over a courtyard between the two building. The shell of the old cathedral is visible and you can go inside. It’s an eerie feeling; all that’s left is 3 walls. See: www.coventrycathedral.org

In the new cathedral, everything is bathed in light. Instead of the few usual big, darkly stained glass windows, there are hundreds of small windows in floor-to-ceiling fenestration all along both sides of the building. Light floods into it from all directions. The large, main stained glass work is glorious. It’s hundreds of small windows arranged in a patchwork of colours. You can’t see what it is until you get across the church from it, and then you see a sun in skies of all shades of blue from dark purple to the palest baby blue. Breathtaking!

The baptismal font is a sculpture carved into a giant boulder from Jerusalem. The sculptures in the cathedral are, of course, all modern. There’s a head of Christ by an artist in Oklahoma that is made entirely from the metal in crashed cars from a junkyard. I didn’t like the Christ face, far too white-Midwesterner-looking, but the concept of resurrection, of new from old, runs throughout all the sculptures. A lot of them are made from recycled or reused materials. The most amazing one is the main cross in the sanctuary. It’s a sculpture showing what the altar cross in the old cathedral looked like after the bombing, all twisted from the heat, but not broken. In the center of it, very small, is a cross made from 3 medieval nails, original to the old cathedral. it gave me chills. What a symbol of resurrection!

Coventry Cathedral is also a world center for reconciliation. After the war the then bishop went to Germany and offered forgiveness. Can you imagine? He went to Dresden, which was literally levelled by Allied bombs and the subsequent fires, a striking parallel to Coventry’s situation. He started a movement of reconciliation, and an organization called The Community of the Cross of Nails. They have an international center at the cathedral where conferences and courses are given for both clergy and lay people about fostering forgiveness and reconciliation. Now there are connected centers all over the world that practice reconciliation and charity. The cross made of the old nails is the logo for the organization. See: www.coventry-cathedral.org/international

There’s also a side chapel that is an interfaith meeting place. It’s round. The exterior is rich teal green slate and there are vertical windows, floor to ceiling, every few feet. The stained glass is in very light pastels to let in lots of light. The seats are in a circle, and there’s no altar. The brochure says it’s a place where all Christian denominations are welcome to worship together. They have a service once a week. I loved the chapel, but I wished it was for ALL religions, not just all Christian religions.

We went on to Stratford-upon-Avon and got to our bed and breakfast (B&B) at about 4:00. Driving in, I wouldn’t have recognized the place. I hadn’t been there since 1985. So much development is going on, there are hundreds of new buildings. We had a little rest and watched some news. Then we went out for a while.

We walked from the B&B first to dinner in a pub that was so old, the walls were leaning in. It’s structurally reinforced, so perfectly safe, and eating there, sitting in a room where Shakespeare could have sat, was fun. The food was heavy English food: cottage pie for my husband, and I had traditional Lancashire hot pot– a stew with beef, carrots, onions (in chunks, not sliced), parsnips and potatoes. They served it with greens and bread. It was much over salted for my taste, but I never salt anything at home, so it was probably fine for most people. Then I had a Southern Comfort for dessert. :o )

We walked off dinner by walking down (about a mile down and back) to the River Avon, window shopping and looking at restaurant menus on the way there; investigating the Royal Shakespeare Company site when we got to the river. We walked along the riverbank briefly, but it was just getting dark and those annoying midges were out and drove us crazy in about 30 seconds. Millions of those little things anywhere near water at dusk.

We took a slightly different route home. The center of Stratford is completely protected as a historical district, so the houses are tiny, with doors along the street that even I, at five-foot-four, would have to duck to get into. Many of the buildings have side entrances that are modern, but the facades are perfect Tudor half timbers. A lot of them lean in or out, or even side to side, but the effect is magical. It’s like stepping into a fairy story.

Of course the Shakespeare Memorial Theatre (the RSC’s main house) is closed because they’re building the new theatre on top of, or rather inside, the old one, and it’s a huge construction site. But they’ve done a really smart thing. On the construction barrier walls around the site, they have put up the plans for the new theatre, pictures of how it will look, and regular updates on the process. There’s a whole history of the project posted on these walls. It’s fabulous. (See: www.rsc.org.uk)

Only the small, temporary theatre is open, called the Courtyard Theatre. It’s on the site where the Other Place used to be. They were doing A Midsummer Night’s Dream on the night we could go, and we weren’t in the mood.

On Saturday we slept in, then walked to Trinity Church, where the graves are. Will and Ann are under gravestones in the sanctuary, just in front of the original altar. (Their son, Hamnet, died in childhood. Their daughter lived to adulthood and married a very well-to-do doctor, so she’s buried next to him out in the churchyard. Their house is restored so you can tour it. )

The church was busier than I’ve ever seen it. When I’ve been before, there have been maybe half a dozen people there, but it was crawling on Saturday. So we didn’t linger very long. We did find a nice quiet side chapel where we sat and mediated for a few minutes. The graves are now cordoned off so you can’t get close enough to read the inscriptions. When I was last there, I stood right over them and read the famous “Curst be he who moves my bones..”

We stopped for tea on the way back to our B&B and had delicious pastries (my one extravagance for the day) with really good tea. Then Ewan went straight back to the B&B and I went to the shops to buy little things for dinner. We didn’t want to go out again that night. So I got steak and mushroom pies (actually rectangles of pastry with meat and mushrooms inside in a thick gravy) and Cornish pasties (shaped like giant pot stickers with meat and potatoes inside), apples and plums, and drinks. So we had a picnic on our bed, watched Dr. Who and some other TV and went to sleep early. It was good just to loll around.

Sunday, we got up early, packed up and left by ten , to go to Compton Verney, a fantastic gallery in a gorgeous family estate. It was bought a few years ago by Sir Peter Moores, a very rich businessmen, heir to a fortune and rich in his own right. The permanent collection is quite eccentric because he has eccentric taste in art, but the museum itself is absolutely best practice. They took a page out of the Met’s book and are really the most modern-thinking art museum I’ve seen here in England. See: www.comptonverney.org.uk

They have LOTS of beautifully, professionally produced educational materials, catalogues, a history of the estate and other supporting material. And they have activities every day to engage both children and adults in doing art as well as looking at it.

The galleries are well laid out with good light and temperature control, and the collections are arranged and displayed completely professionally. It was a pleasure to be there. The cafe has fantastic food and the service is amazingly good. The shop had many items based on the collection, and the general stuff is directly related to the activities and/or the collection– not a lot of junky, unrelated items as in most of the museum shops here. I was very impressed indeed.

The collections are, as I said, a bit odd. There’s a lot of medieval art from Europe, especially Italy, and very little English art, in the permanent collection. I’m not fond of medieval stuff, all the angels and saints and endless variations on the theme. But they have some wonderful, very suggestive still lifes, and a couple of saints that really glow.

The temporary exhibition was Giocometti, whom I detest, so we didn’t even go into that gallery.

There was also a performance art piece in progress the whole time we were there, but it was completely booked up so we didn’t get a chance to see the whole piece. It looked really wonderful, young dancer types in dark leggings, skirts or pants, with bright turquoise tops, standing and moving in various places throughout the museum and grounds; and mobiles of photos and miniature objects were part of it, and a video camera set up. As I say, it looked like fun, but it was booked up all day.

The stuff I enjoyed most was the folk art, which is on the top floor. It comprised everything from wonderfully bad paintings to pub signs to everyday tools and gadgets to quilts. There was one quilt that just knocked my socks off. It had patchwork, embroidery, crewel work and applique, all done by hand. It was a patriotic piece, commemorating some battle in 1898. It was a bit worn around the edges but otherwise in very good condition. The colours were much brighter than you’d expect in fabrics over a hundred years old.

The other patchwork was a set of pillows and a full length cushion on an old settee. The patchwork was definitely 19th century, but the settee was at least 17th if not even earlier. The cushions were an obvious effort to make the old bench more comfortable. The colours were natural undyed cotton with a pale orange that could have been from onion skins or possibly calendula petals to make the dye. The stitching was all by hand of course, as the stitches were UNIFORM. What skill the quilter had!

There were also some wonderful toys in the collection, whirly-gigs, a doll bed and a child-sized wheelbarrow, all hand carved. The paints were old and faded and badly chipped, but you could see that they were skillfully and fancifully done in very bright colours. Some of the kitchen gadgets defied even the curators as to what they were used for. A lot of the labels said, “believed to. . .” or “possibly for. . .” Great fun!

There were very few English paintings, but they are having a visiting exhibition of English art later this year, which we may go back and see. In June-September they’re having a special exhibition called The Fabric of Myth, all textiles, which I’m dying to see, so we’re planning to do that. It’s a little more than an hour’s drive, so it’s a doable day out.

Weaving the Mundane with the Spiritual

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It’s interesting. I’ve wanted all these years to erase the line between spiritual life and everyday life, and I’ve just realized that choosing these paint colours is an example of what I’ve been trying to do.

Seems pretty mundane, deciding what colour to paint a room. But it’s not just a matter of decoration. Colour is very, very powerful. Our responses to colour are not simple. We respond psychologically, emotionally and physically. For instance, a measurable weakening of muscles happens when people walk into a room painted certain shades of pink. But on the emotional level, pink, even cool hues of pink, usually makes people feel warm, relaxed and receptive. That’s why it’s considered a romantic colour.

Looking at the colours at different times of day, considering the times of day we spend the most time in each room, considering the emotional and psychological responses and THEN considering the spiritual connotations — i.e. a green aura indicates healing power and a violet aura indicates spiritual devotion, etc. — well, it’s subtle and complex. I’ve almost always used grey walls as a neutral canvas and put all the colour into the furnishings, and people’s responses have always been that my house is peaceful. Well, I want the peaceful sense, yes, but I want colours now that also reflect the joy my husband and I have together and the spiritual energy we want to share.

Children’s Anger and Transformation

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THE PEACE EMPOWERMENT PROCESS
HELPS PEOPLE TRANSFORM VIOLENCE INTO CREATIVITY

The World Wall for Peace transforms the lives of people, children and adults, through the Peace Empowerment Process® (PEP), taught by its creator, Carolyna Marks. The process comprises two distinct sections, the PEP®, and the Blueprint of Emotional Wisdom®. The PEP gives people simple, repeatable techniques which allow them to dissipate anger and the impulse to violent reaction, and to respond to violence or the threat of violence with creative thinking and compassion.

The PEP focuses not on unlimited freedom of the self, but on the free choices available to the whole individual in the context of a vital and responsive community. In many programs, self- esteem is often overemphasized to the detriment of responsibility and service. We are one with other people, and in the PEP self esteem is not emphasized to the exclusion of these things. The objective is for people to grow together; to be interrelated, not singular; to live creative individuality without sacrificing community.

In nearly thirty years of peace work, Carolyna Marks has observed lasting changes in attitudes of both children and adults with whom she has worked building peace walls; and participants who have learned the Peace Empowerment Process relate moving experiences of recognizing the transformations in their own consciousness and emotions.


The listing of Peace Powers, one of the first exercises in the PEP, leads children to redefine, as valuable abilities, qualities often seen as weak or “wimpy.” By writing down and reading them out, children see and own as powerful skills such as listening, drawing, or being persistent. In one school, a very quiet girl at the back of the classroom amazed her teacher by raising her hand, eager to read her list of Peace Powers to the class. The girl had never seen her quietness or her thoughtful nature as powerful until then. The teacher told Ms. Marks that the girl was the shyest child in the class and was literally transformed by learning the PEP.

The Walk-a-Mile exercise opens compassion and empathy. The procedure is to pair off from the circle and listen very closely to the story of another person’s experience; then return to the group and become the other person, to relate your partner’s story in the first person. In a recent PEP workshop, an African American man and a sixteen year old Chinese boy were partners.

The boy related that he had come to the United States when he was about five. He said that, although his whole family, seven children and his parents, all lived in one room, they were a close, happy family, even though they were poor. His father, who regularly went out with friends on Saturday night, one night went out as usual, and was shot and killed in an argument with his friends. It completely changed the boy’s life: He began to steal and was arrested, but fortunately was placed in a program, in which he learned from career prisoners what it would be like if he did end up in jail. The experience woke him up and started him back toward a more constructive life.

The African American man had been raised in minister’s family, and rebelled dramatically against his father as a young man. As he matured, however, he found great respect for and began to understand the power of his father’s ministry and ideals. The black man and the Chinese boy were from a neighborhood where friction between their two races was a daily fact of life. But they bonded instantly and intimately when they realized their experiences of loss and family conflict were not all that different from one another. Both had a fundamental change of attitude through experiencing the other’s story.

In working with the second component of the PEP, the Blueprint of Emotional Wisdom®, children learn to look at their emotions and identify the source of their anger. Marks’ work is based largely on the concept that underlying all violent actions is anger; and under anger are fear, guilt and grief or disappointment.

In one PEP session, children began spontaneously to share their grief by telling stories about the deaths of dogs and cats, grandparents, an aunt. They were very emotional stories, filled with anger, fear and guilt. Soon a wave of tears swept through the room. Everyone was crying because the schoolroom had suddenly become a safe place for them to express their feelings. The teacher reported that for the next several days the children were extraordinarily kind to each other. One boy had a foster sister who had died, and didn’t know what to do with his feelings about it. After this PEP training he decided to draw and write about it. Children do make creative choices when they have permission not to be violent.

For more information on the World Wall for Peace, go to www.wwfp.org. Marks’ book, Creativity in the Lion’s Den, is available from the organization.